In the experiences with women that I have had, I found myself wondering if there was a ploy or falsity in the way the women were acting.
It felt to me as though I had to make a concerted effort or, in a way, force my presence around them. I felt alienated and somewhat frustrated with the fact that the only time they wanted to spend time with me was when I could do something for them.
The problem I see is, how do we know what is sincere? Women label the nice guy as too nice; “I wish every guy was like you, you’re a good friend,” etc. If that is the case, why do you still go after the guys that treat you like dirt?
It seems to me that the line that divides your responsibilities to yourself and to your relationship to your friends has become somewhat of a blur in this day and age.
Most people have a tendency to forget that they need to take care of themselves before they can take care of others. Women, in my opinion, seem to misuse the friend relationship more than men. Women in general try to make men believe the relationship comes first and your responsibilities are in fact that relationship.
The relationship does not necessarily have to be one of romance, but nonetheless, in their eyes it should still come first.
Men aren’t innocent either, as in my case. I allow the women I know to misuse our relationship even though I know in my heart they are treating me wrong.
Why that is? I can only speculate, but I believe it is because women are such good manipulators. Women have the uncanny ability to use every resource available to get what they want and men fall for it.
The only recourse men have is to realize that women aren’t the most important thing in our lives.
I know they comprise a big part of our lives, but if they can’t treat us like we want to be treated, then don’t treat them like they want to treated.
Women are smart creatures and once they realize that we are too, hopefully they’ll change their ways. I’m just an average guy trying to get some answers and seriously trying to understand.
I have had too many bad experiences in my lifetime and I am trying to change. Please do not take my words the wrong way. I am not bashing women, because I do like women. The only thing I am trying to do is understand.