Dear Beca: Advice for a crush


I’ve had a crush on this guy for a while now. When I asked him if he felt the same he said he wasn’t looking for a relationship.

But when I asked him this we were just getting to know each other.

Now we talk all the time and are great friends. We share a lot of the same interests and I think he likes me too.

Should I ask him if he’s changed his mind or should I just let it be?

Thanks,Wanting More

Dear Wanting More,

I’ve been in a similar situation and trust me when I say that things can end horribly if this person doesn’t return your feelings. Honestly, if you have an amazing friendship that you really appreciate, I wouldn’t do anything unless you know for sure. Generally, when guys want to date someone, they go for it. I got myself in a “friends with benefits” type of relationship with my best friend, hoping it would grow, and I lost a lot when I realized it would never go anywhere. So keep things friendly and don’t get too deep unless you are absolutely sure you both want the same things.


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