Hardcastle’s parenting blog: Communication is key

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Being a full-time student and parent offers new challenges for a young college age couple. Communication is perhaps the most important way to address these issues.

As a couple, your new child will push you to your limits in every way you can think. There will be times you will be sleep deprived, hungry and angry because you are feeding your child at midnight and you just want to sleep.

Being this tired and stressed out can lead to you and your partner arguing more over things that you may not have argued about before. We had a shouting match over how bottles were cleaned that left us both confused.

In times like this, it is so important to communicate everything with your partner such as your feelings, your schedule and what your expectations for each other as new parents are.

Under all the new stress you may find yourself angrier, you should look to your partner as someone who, despite all of the stress, you can still share your feelings with. Always let your partner know how you are feeling, or issues of resentment may arise.

You will not have as much free time as before, one of you will always need to be taking care of your new child. My spouse works full-time, while I am a full-time student. It is important that early on that you communicate when you can and cannot be available to care for your child. Make a schedule and do your best to stick to it.

Let your partner know what your expectations are for each other and hold each other accountable. Your new child will require a ton out of you both, and you can tackle it together! But you will be worse at some things, and your partner will be better at others. Figure out what these things are and parenting your new child will be much smoother.

Communication is key for a student parent and applying it in a healthy way with your partner will enable you both to be able to parent better as a team.

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