The Issue
Dear Beca,
Hi, I was seeking advice about roommate trouble. How do you approach a roommate if she takes everything personal (re: packing fridge, lights, and her dog)? Please help!
-Roomie Blues
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The Advice
Dear Roomie Blues,
If you are having trouble with your roommate, you need to sit her down and have a talk with her about what you are having problems with. When you do sit her down, do not approach it aggressively, that never gets anyone anywhere.
Be as sincere as you can, crack a joke or two so she knows not to take it too personally, but really, any problems you have are gonna be personal. If she is taking everything to heart there may also be something else going on that you are not aware of. You should approach it as a concerned friend and make sure you don’t ruin your friendship.
I know from experience a ruined friendship is devastating, especially when it is over something that is easily resolved.
On the other hand, if you talk to her and she doesn’t try and accommodate your requests, then you can be a little more up front and straightforward because there is only so much you can say to someone without having them hear you.
Good Luck!
Love,
Beca